Good Conversation Starters
It’s natural to want to impress someone you like with your personality, charm and sense of humour. If you have a hot date scheduled in your diary you’ve obviously impressed someone enough to say “yes” to your invitation. To get the conversation started you just need to be yourself. Being too confident can come across as pushy. If you’re overly anxious or nervous your date will pick up on this vibe. Do some research on your meeting place, so that you have an interesting story to break the ice. Take it slow and steady so that you both feel relaxed and comfortable.
Before you rush into talking about the topics that you think will captivate your date, it’s essential that you pay attention to your body language. Women naturally feel more comfortable around someone who is polite, genuine and attentive. Make eye contact when talking, so that you can establish rapport. If you don’t feel comfortable complimenting your date on how attractive she looks, at least show that you have taken notice. Avoid being overly flirty too soon.
The easiest way to open up a conversation is by establishing common ground. If you met your date online you probably know a number of things about her already. Keep the conversation light to begin with and ask open questions that can’t be answered with ‘a “yes” or “no” reply. It’s safe to ask about how their day went, and things that give you insight into likes and dislikes. It’s also ok to talk about random stuff, but it’s best to avoid controversial topics like politics, sex and religion.
Make the most of the fact that you have a captive audience by sharing common experiences. As surprising as it may sound, we naturally bond with people who share our dislikes. Comparing notes on people, places, foods and other things that you both don’t like is guaranteed to be fun. Share an embarrassing or funny story to make your date laugh out loud. Observational humour, about your surroundings, is another great way to share a joke and to establish rapport.
Hot topics can include questions that are a little wild or wacky. It’s best to save these for after you have explored common ground subjects and likes and dislikes. You can ask questions like: What’s the boldest thing you’ve ever done? Or Where in the world would you most like to be right now? Or whatever pops into you mind. If your date is feeling comfortable in your company she will be highly responsive to your crazy questions.
Women naturally relate to people who evoke an emotional response from them. Talking about topics like your childhood, family and friends, ambitions, and passions, will make her feel that there is a growing connection between you.
Open up the conversation by asking your date about herself. Listen for cues and watch her body language. How your date communicates with you is providing you with important clues regarding whether or not she’s interested in you. Once you get the hang of relaxing and just going with the flow, the conversation will maintain a steady balance, and you’ll feel comfortable talking about anything.
Keep focusing on your dating strategy and expect nothing but success!